DA – Power and Control

Power and Control


We oftentimes talk about how power and control play out in abusive relationships. The first thing we always want people to remember is that dating abuse is all about the abuser wanting to have power and control over their partner.

Defining Power and Control

  • Power: possession of control, authority or influence over others
  • Control: to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command

Signs To Look Out For

Always keep in mind the behaviors that are on the Power and Control Wheel. These behaviors are common among adolescent relationships, but remember that the Power and Control Wheel does not list ALL of the behaviors that are considered abusive. The wheel is meant to be used as a tool and to encourage you to follow your heart and your mind when it comes to figuring out if things feel wrong.

Power and Control Wheel (Click on image to download)