500 Days of Summer

Hello blog readers! It's spring! Well that's what the calendar says, anyway. The weather... Not so much! What will you guys be doing this spring break? Going away? Spending time with friends? Well I know I'll be watching tons of movies this spring break!

One of my absolute favorite movies, 500 Days of Summer won't be missing from my must watch list! Zooey Deschanel and Joseph Gordon-Levitt star in this story about love. I've watched this movie at least a dozen times in the past year, and I've never really taken the time to realize that it actually portrays a really unhealthy relationship! I only took the time to think about it when I came across a quote by one of the main characters, Joseph Gordon-Levitt:

“The (500) Days of Summer attitude of “He wants you so bad” seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones, but I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is. He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.”

I think that says it all.

This really reminded me that there are plenty of different forms of abuse. There is physical-hitting, kicking, spitting, slamming a car door, etc. Then there's the more "subtle" forms. Making your partner think badly about themselves, being extremely infatuated with someone before you've even begun talking to them, or really anything that causes someone to feel uncomfortable. "Subtle" abuse is what we see the most in media, people! Movies, books, music; but that's why we love them. We want to know what happens to the mentally unstable teenage girl that can't make up her mind. We want to know if the kid that has a drinking problem gets the girl. You know, the media has made us think that all of this is interesting and fun and intelligent. It's not, and you may not be seeing it. I know I wasn't! So, readers, next time you watch a movie, or read a book, or listen to a song on repeat for days, think about it, and decide whether or not it's worth your time.